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Top 10 qualities Gentlemen look for in a Lady

A Gentleman | September 20, 2020
Top 10 qualities Gentlemen look for in a Lady

Fortunately, men are more than muscle, more than ego. They also have hearts, can love… and they are willing to do so. 

Furthermore, a true Gentlemen is not afraid to love and to say “I love you” and, as part of their Gentleman’s code of honour, when they say it, they mean it.

But before they do, a modern Gentleman looks for some specifics qualities in a Lady to give his heart away to her and to committed to her.

Here are the top 10 qualities a modern Gentleman would love her Lady to have:


This might sound like a bit of a cliché, and even unfair, but the first thing men look for in a woman is to feel attracted to her. This does not mean she has to be a model or a Hollywood star but they want her to be attractive in her own way, elegant, feminine and sensual, when she has to be so.


True kindness really is rare these days. Sure, you get people who are nice to those who hold some sort of value to them, but not people who do it from their heart. Men don’t want to be with a person that’s just nice to them, their friends, and their family. They want a person who can brighten up their day by brightening up the lives of everyone she comes in contact with.


Men like being around people who are happy to be themselves, not just women who respond powerfully to a confident partner. Men love being with a woman who stands up for herself and what she believes in. They don’t want a clone of themselves or someone addicted to the latest celebrity trends. They want someone original who walks her own walk and talks her talk, someone who knows her own mind and what she wants and goes for it and, hopefully, that includes him!


There’s a lot to be said on what’s sexy and, more specifically, on what makes a woman sexy. It’s not what a girl wears beneath the sheets or what she’s into, it’s the fact that she’s comfortable with her own sexuality and aware of her sexual energy. For men, romance is much more fun with a woman who knows what she’s into and isn’t abashed about it. Better still if she can teach him a thing or two so they can journey into this together. A woman who is truly comfortable with her own sexuality is less likely to judge her partner when he reveals his own preferences and fantasies, this honesty and sharing space can boost confidence and plunge the relationship into all sorts of unimaginable depths.


Trustworthy describes something you can believe in — it’s completely reliable. … In an election, you’ll likely vote for the most trustworthy candidate because you believe she’ll keep her promises. If you’re trustworthy, that means you’re reliable: you do what you say you’re going to do.

Everyone wants a trustworthy person as a life partner. If a man cannot trust his Lady, how can he think of her as his better half? Wining the trust of a Man is the key to win his heart.


A man is always looking for a woman who takes care of him and supports him. He wants a life partner who comforts him in difficult times, supports him when life is tough and gives him reassurance of all his decisions. Always show him you are supportive and caring with small gestures.


If you want to be the perfect Lady that a Man is looking for, you must learn to give him some pace. Everyone needs personal space and some private time. This is healthy for him to grow as a person. Giving him the space and time, he deserves for himself will eventually make your relationship stronger.


One of the most important things in any relationship, romantic or otherwise, is the ability to have a great time and have a good laugh. Taking care of one’s emotional hygiene and good mood should be a priority. Only then you can take life positive, light, and with a fair dose of humour.

Studies show that men are attracted to smiling women. A natural smile conveys messages like optimism and stability, which are definitely qualities desired in a mate.


In a world of radical feminism and battles for gender equality, women are often seen competing head to head with men on the power front. The dynamic between men and women has shifted and more often women are wearing the trousers in relationships. Although strength and independence can be very attractive, so is gentleness, in action, deed, speech and appearance in women. Men still want to wear the trousers and play protector and provider to women if you’ll let them. There is nothing more empowering for a man than feeling strong and useful to his woman, it’s incredibly attractive.


Man do not like women who go after fancy things all the time, demand expensive gifts or luxury treats or ask him to take you to expensive places for dinner all the time. It is much better to give him a feeling that his presence is the most important thing for you. Once he is relieved that he doesn’t have to empty his pockets to impress a Lady, he will himself go out of his way to do nice things to make her happy.

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